A Shocking But Not So Shocking Outcome!

I have been doing the promotion for my book and I’ve had my miss steps and my up-hill challenges…not everyone embraces the concept of my book and what I do for a living.  I totally understand that, and I can appreciate other people’s belief systems. What I find the most interesting and sad is the people who won’t even listen to another view point. 

 

In this journey I’ve had to overcome many fears and learn many new skills.  The main one which I’ve talked about before is self-promotion!  I’m not a person who is great at tooting my own horn, but over the last few months I’ve slowly but surely learned to say “toot, toot”.  That is why when I contacted a local newspaper and the editor decided to do an article about me and my newly released book, I was very pleased with myself for stepping out of my comfort zone.  

 

The paper sent a photographer to take photos of me holding my book, I hurried down to the offices of the paper to leave a copy of my book for the journalist who was writing the piece.  A few weeks later I received interview questions from her and the article was set to be published. I was weirdly excited to see it in print!  I was proud of myself for doing the self-promotion, and I was wrapping my head around the community seeing an article about me and getting attention for myself and my book through it.  I felt great about pushing myself out of my comfort zone. 

 

A week or so later another parent at my son’s drumline practice mentioned to me that his wife had seen the article and that she said it was a well written and a good article on me.  I was excited to get home to read it.  But what happened was confusing.  I rush in, pull out my computer type in the paper website and see the title of the article. I click on it and it isn’t there! What? It was taken down.  I wait a few days, meditating on it, many fears surfacing.  I finally reach out to the editor and the journalist.  No word back from them.  

 

Finally, about a week later the journalist reaches out and says….. “the article was pulled because other editors at the paper felt the topic was too sensitive.”  She informed me that a shorter version would be re-published.  Which it has, and it is a few nice lines, but not an article that I was hoping for.  But I guess I can look at it as great promotion for myself and my book.  I was really just hoping to be able to bring information forward about my message to more average people who are searching for a connection in their lives. 

 

It does make me sad that we, in this day are still closed minded to other ways of doing things.  That people are so closed minded to not educate themselves on other’s beliefs. I think if people did open themselves up to learning and listening, they may just find out that we are all not that different from each other.  We just all have different perspectives of the same thing.  

 

Guest Blog - Gail Sylvester - Mortgage Broker

This is an introduction to a good friend of mine and someone who I’ve had the pleasure to work with on my journey and her’s. We have learned a lot together and we are both of similar thinking of how we want to help others body, mind and soul! She will be contributing blogs on all these topics.

Next week I will be conducting an interview with her which I will post on this blog and we will be taping it for future use as a podcast that we are planning to bring to you. We will be discussing finance advice as well as spiritual lessons within that, plus many other things. Because when Gail and I get together our topics go all over the place which just proves my theory that everything is connected!!

I’m so happy to have Gail contributing to this blog! It is an honour to introduce you to my dear friend Gail Sylvester!!

HOW DID I GET HERE?

Great question ! I always had aspired to work at the bank when I was younger, I thought it was my dream job, it was so cool to work with all that money. Boy, if I only knew then what I know now ... lol

Throughout high school I had worked at part time retail jobs in the mall, but my girlfriend landed a job working at the bank part time when they extended their hours. She worked less hours than I did but made more money, so that was the turning point - I had to work there too, it paid so well.

After working at various retail management positions, I got my start at the bank. I started as a teller and worked my way to the personal banker role within a really short amount of time. I loved what I did, I was helping clients and making a difference in their lives.

Over the years, I became the girl that everyone would come to when a client came into the branch looking for a mortgage. I understood the underwriting concept, how to put the numbers together so it worked not only on paper, but also for my clients cash flow. But I was soon realizing that I couldn’t do everyone’s mortgage that I met with, I was limited in my options as I worked for 1 bank. Any declines I would get, I would refer to a Mortgage Broker as she had options that I never had. She would ask me why I didn’t get into the brokering business and I felt I couldn’t since I had a young family, I needed the stability of the bank and a steady paycheque. It was scary jumping into the unknown of a commission pay world ... but then one day, I took the leap ! I placed that call, met with the Mortgage Broker, I talked to colleague of hers that was also new in the brokering world so I could get a better idea of what to expect. I met with a few different brokerages then went with the company that felt like the right fit for me.

Turns out the brokerage wasn’t the right fit after all and I switched to a different brokerage within the year. But without this brokerage, I would not have connected with the ladies that I still work with today, 11 years later. The 3 of us stuck together and transferred together.

I’m so fortunate to be here and getting to do what I had always wanted to do. I took the leap of faith and never looked back. Never once did I doubt myself and never ever was there a Plan B - it was just going to work. So with hard work, focus, dedication and passion for what I love to do, I’m still here in the business and continuing to grow each and every year, thanks to you - my clients !

But stay tuned for what this next year holds .. cause now, I’m only just at the beginning of making a difference in your life !! :)

Stepping out of our comfort zone! 

The last few weeks have been a huge adventure and a learning experience.  I’m not sure exactly all the lessons that I have learned from this experience, but I am aware of a few.  The main one being stepping out of our comfort zone is a must in life.  

 

Over the last few months I have been learning a lot about self-promotion, which is so far from who I am that I’ve really had to reach beyond my norm, and honestly it has been extremely uncomfortable at times but extremely rewarding at other times.  I am and have always been a humble person.  Over the years I had learned a little bit that being too humble can actually be a detriment, just like being an egomaniac is.  But this process of being an author and having to self-promote has taken it to a completely different level of understanding.  

 

I had naively thought “I will get a publisher and then they will do all the promotion and selling of my book”, boy was I wrong.  Don’t get me wrong they have done a fabulous job, but their job only goes so far, there is a point where as the author you need to take the reigns and self-promote yourself and your book.  This process since my book was released has taught me so much that relates not to just becoming an author but to everything in life.  

 

I’m not saying that we should all become egomaniacs walking around being narcissists what I’m saying is that we need to learn to balance our humility.  We can be completely humble but know that we have purpose and that we kick ass.  That there are things that make us who we are that are truly wonderful.  Whether that is in our careers, our friendships and our love relationships. Yes, we all suck at some things, that is what makes us human and keeps us humble.  But if you recognize that we are all in the trenches learning and that no one is better than the other, yet we are all special then we would all be more successful in our lives.  

 

So, back to the last couple of weeks….in this journey of self-promotion, I stepped completely out of my comfort zone and contacted a nation wide tv show.  The producer contacted me within a few hours and I was set to be on “The Marilyn Denis Show = Master Class Makeover”.  This was a huge step out, I hate getting my photo taken, never mind being in front of a camera on national television.  But I thought “I stepped forward on my path and the universe thought that it was a good idea for me, so they lined up everything and made it happen – I need to go for this no matter how uncomfortable I am.”  Besides, it may be fun to get a complete makeover, what woman out there hasn’t thought about having one in their lifetime. 

 

The first day of filming was fun, there were three of us going to be on the show.  They took us individually to interview us on camera about our fashion, or lack there of. We had to stand in front of the camera in our problem outfits and then we met the stylist and got to try on a bunch of different clothes that he had picked for us.  I have to say this is the best way to clothes shop, having someone else do it for you. 

 

The next adventure a few days later was hair.  Now this is where my lessons really start to show their ugly but wonderful faces.  I show up and meet with the woman who is going to colour my hair.  An amazing talented woman, who is incredible at her job. If you look at my website you will see that I have, had, will again very soon, THANK GOD I HAVE SHORT HAIR, salt and pepper hair.  The stylist discussed with me about colouring my hair when we were trying on clothes, I said I didn’t really want to go dark again, but I’d be open to more grey in my hair or even all grey.  Well what was waiting for me was an extreme.  Now, it is worth saying that I have ALWAYS wanted to go blonde, but never had the guts, and honestly something in me always felt it wasn’t for me, but I’m a bit of a rebel and was always attracted to the extreme of going from black hair to blonde.  The colourist at the salon sat me down, pulled up some photos on her phone that the stylist had sent her and there looking at me was photos of white blonde hair. 

 

A ton of things ran through my head in a second; my husband will hate it, I’ve always wanted to do it, it’s just hair, will I look stupid, I love my salt and pepper hair and that I have the balls to be grey when most women don’t, and the one thought I settled on was…..I’m on a makeover show, embrace it and go for it…there is a reason for everything.  The next thing I know I’m getting my hair bleached.  Three ½ hours later I walked out of the salon a white blonde.  It was funky, there were things I liked about it.  But man, the up keep will be brutal and fast approaching.  I have short, and I mean short hair, my black hair will be showing in weeks and then it will really get interesting.  But I held on to the, it’s a makeover show, so go for it.  

 

The response to my hair was quick and not so fun.  I had two teams of people, the I love it and I wish I could do it, and the other team who hated it, they didn’t dislike it, they HATED it.  What this forced me to do was really hunker down to reality and what matters the most, what did I think of it.  It doesn’t really matter what others think, even if it’s your husband who every time he walks in a room that you’re sitting in he growls shakes his head and leaves.  It only matters what you think and feel. Even with all the up and down emotion with this, I honestly didn’t feel like myself.  I have always prided myself on being authentic to who I am, and this felt off.  But I was in it now and I thought maybe, just maybe it’s so extreme and so new that I would settle in it, I mean after all we are not our hair.  There are women who change their hair monthly.  I was putting too much energy into, or so I thought. Now I understand one of the lessons within it. 

 

The day of the shoot came a week later.  I was strangely numb to the whole thing.  Was it that my hair experience was so extreme that nothing could freak me out or was I just in a place knowing that I could do this.  I have no idea to this day, I think it may have even been a fight or flight response, almost like an out of body experience.  It almost doesn’t feel now like it happened…until I look in the mirror.  My friend came with me and we made a day of it. The outfit I ended up in was extreme to my personality and nothing that I would have picked, but by this point I was just totally owning the experience.  We got to keep the outfits, which was really cool, some of it I will wear again, some will take up real estate in my closet as a memory of lessons learned.  

 

All in all, it was an amazing adventure.  I met some great people, and I did learn about some fashion tips that I will take forward into my life.  But as I sit here typing this with chocolate brown hair, yes, I couldn’t handle walking past the mirror another day with shocking blonde hair, and yes, my dark hair was already growing in and I so desperately wanted to just erase the mistakes I made.  Ok, Ok, they were not mistakes, they were for many reasons, but the main reason that is blaringly obvious to me after only a couple days is the importance of being authentic to ourselves, while also pushing ourselves out of our comfort zone. 

 

What I have learned about myself and working with other empaths is that many times we know what we need to do but because we are so busy helping everyone else walk their paths, we often don’t have the energy or time to focus on ourselves.  It takes being pushed into a corner before we ever do something for ourselves.  My Marilyn Denis Show appearance was definitely a shove into a corner by the universe.  And yes, I’m going to be that woman who saw herself on TV and it was an OMG moment, I need to take care of myself, I AM NOT the best me.  I am a huge believer that we do not need to be super skinny to look our bests, some of us are curvy and rock that, but we also know how we feel physically and how we want to present ourselves and what I saw on that screen was not the best me.  Again, I have known this for a while and talked a good talk about doing something to be better, but this was the kick I needed.  

 

I had gotten into a funk physically, I needed the push to get back to reality and take care of myself body, mind and soul.  Life always gets in the way of us taking care of ourselves. I started this blog a long time ago and with self-promoting my book, book signings, and life in general, it fell by the side, and so did my attempt at balance and taking care of myself. I’m a huge believer that it is all connected, if we feel crap about ourselves, we will not dress well, if we dress better, we feel a tiny bit better, if we eat better, we feel better physically and mentally, if we can balance it all we will feel amazing!!!  And a lot of that comes from the soul work as well.  

 

So, I think that this opportunity was the kick in the butt I needed to realize what I needed to focus on and what I didn’t.  What is important and what isn’t.  And most importantly that they, our guides and the universe are always trying to help us learn our lessons and be the best us.  

 

I think the bottom line is to always be our authentic self and then work on shining as YOU!!! 

 

 

The Not So Medium, Medium!

Well, this is my first blog in this journey to become the best me, body, mind and soul.  In these blogs I will share with all of you my trials and tribulations when it comes to fitness, food, and well being.  I am 51, dancing with pre-menopause, which just makes this journey that much more difficult.  BUT, honestly I think there is hope.  I feel like I’m just PMS-ing 28 days of the month.  I’m craving food that I’ve never craved and I’m putting on weight even when I’m being “good”.  But.... I know I keep saying that, but….I really just want to be the best me.  If that isn’t a skinner version of me then I’m totally ok with that…well…not totally, but …. I am understanding that I want to look and feel better, and that doesn’t always come with being skinner.  

My name is Lisa Anne Rooney, I am a Spiritual Medium Life Coach and Author.  I spend my days in sessions with clients advising them with spirits help how to be the best them.  Yet in typical fashion I do not always listen to spirit for myself.  I do listen regarding spiritual advise, how to be the best me spiritually.  Honestly, though, if I’m being truthful, that isn’t that difficult for me, my spiritual abilities are strong and to connect to that is like breathing, it just comes naturally.  Where I struggle is the body and mind.  

I know that the mind is something that is a major deciding factor in our lives.  Mindset is everything and the soul and mind work hand in hand.  But having free will, thanks universe, we can screw up a lot of progress and block things from coming to us simply by our mindset.  

Our body, our vessel, if the mind is the captain, our body is our ship, the soul is the engine.  Without one the others don’t work.  If we can get them all working to their highest and best they will automatically work with each other bringing us into balance and allowing us to shine and be the best us.

Ok, so now you see that I totally get it in theory.  Putting it into practice is the goal and the challenge.  So, on this journey I’m going to “attempt” to figure out the easiest and simplest way of doing it.  And I know what my guides (spirits that are here to help us) will say, I’m complicating the situation.  It’s simply a choice, remove TRY from my sentences and replace it with “DO”!  As Yoda says “Do or Do not do…there is no try”.  

I know this is hundred percent true.  But why do I and others self-sabotage I know some of us have demons, but why do we allow them to continue to have power over us.  When do we take that power back and start owning and being responsible for ourselves.  The old take the steering wheel of your vehicle. 

So today, I’m gathering my thoughts and will be starting my journey on Monday.  Yes, I know what my mind is saying and all you reading this are saying.  The old Monday trap.  Which is funny.  I’ve spoken to so many people about this.  We “try” to start our diet and exercise routine on Monday then Tuesday comes we cheat and then Wednesday comes and we full on stop and then we say (to make ourselves feel better) I will start again on Monday.  And the whole thing starts again the following Monday.

We will see what happens to me on this journey.  And I’m hoping that by writing this out I will be more accountable for myself as well as hopefully helping you the readers.  I’m always better and more motivated when I’m helping others rather than just myself.  The joys of an empath (more about that in another blog), but again this is a way of using your abilities or talents to enhance our lives rather than hinder them.  So I will hopefully by helping others also help myself.  

In these blogs I will discuss topics in all the areas body, mind and soul.

So, taking a deep breath here's to balance!